The Young Female Experience

The Young Female Experience

"I am sure there are a lot of things boys are curious about that girls go through"

My friend and I were talking about all of the experiences we have had as girls throughout our lives that boys probably don’t even know about. We all have our secrets and our unique experiences, I am sure, but I also remember how, in the fifth grade, my boyfriend asked to read the pamphlet I had about girls’ bodies and promised me he’d show me his! I declined, feeling a little grossed out (as I usually did back then at boys my age, I suppose).

I am sure there are a lot of things boys are curious about that girls go through, though (and vice versa), so I thought I’d share just a few of our trade secrets.

  • Girls are asked to sign disclosures that guarantee we aren’t pregnant when we get x-rays. This simple question—“Are you pregnant?”—makes most of us 11-year-olds pretty damn indignant. Still, it has to be asked so any damage to a potential fetus can be evaded. I’ll never forget the first time I was asked. I was only nine—I’d already had my period, so I had to be asked—and was getting an x-ray on my badly struck face after a car accident. Needless to say, I was shocked to be asked at all.
  • Some of us think we are bleeding to death! Though menstrual cycles are beginning at earlier ages, our mentalities are not catching up as quickly. Nine-year-olds should not have to know that much about sex, but we do; and at that age, I did think I was bleeding to death. It was the first day of our annual tests in the third grade, too; what rotten luck! Every girl’s menstrual cycle is different, though, which is also important to remember. Some are painful, some are like they aren’t even happening, and some may even make us feel better. I, for one, often feel more creative during mine—though as a child, it often made me throw up. Each period may have different symptoms or none at all, and bleeding may range from days to months; many women have experienced a wide range of these and more conditions. This is one reason why those stupid “time of the month” jokes really don’t work, and annoy the hell out of us!
  • We get confused as boys sometimes, especially if we don’t have long hair—but we don’t take it as insulting. So we’d appreciate it if you stopped using being a girl—throwing like one, running like one, whatever—as an insult.